when you are going through a major loss

Psalm 41:9
Even my own familiar friend whom I trusted, who ate my bread, has lifted up his heel against me.

There are many kinds of losses that has impact on us... one of the deeper ones is the rejection or betrayal of a friend.... It is often true that we will only know our true friends in crisis...

Proverbs17:17
A friend loves at all times, and a brother is born for adversity.

In life, we would only have at most 3-4 closest brothers and not more than 20 deep relationships but many acquaintances... that is not wrong but normal.... the pain of betrayal is a deep one... Jesus went through betrayal.... in His darkest moments... one of His twelve whom He sowed His life to... betrayed Him with a kiss... Judas.... we are only considered a true friend when we stick it out with another in their dark times...

Proverbs 18:24
A man who has friends must himself be friendly, but there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother.

I want to encourage you by saying that God has friends for you and He wants you to love them and appreciate them and be there for them....never use people to benefit yourself... A brother is born when the need is at its greatest... when you go through a crisis or an attack, God wants to give you a person who understands you without compromising with you. A false friend will simply agree with you and never tell you whats wrong. A true friend says, " This was wrong, but I will stand together with you". A true friend lifts you uo; he does not tear you down. The love of a friend is constant and survives in all circumstances. If you want to have such friends, I want to encourage you to be a friend... and such friends will come into your life as you dedicate yourself to be a friend....